Be My Valentine

Romance, Love, Dating, Marriage

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As February 14th approaches, couples everywhere start fretting about what to do for Valentine's Day. Perhaps a fancy dinner and flowers? Or a well-chosen card and a night of Netflix and chill? Does she really want a box of chocolates and jewelry? What's the perfect gift for a guy who is difficult to buy for? What about no gifts, but the entire day spent together? What if one person spends far more than the other person in the relationship? Navigating the many possibilities and determining what to do to show affection can create a great deal of stress for couples. Here are some suggestions to help you have a very happy Valentine's Day!

They Might Be Thinking:

  • What should I get my partner for Valentine's Day?
  • How much should I spend on a gift?
  • Should I send flowers and a card?
  • Is this day really important for the health of our relationship?
  • Should we discuss our plans ahead of time?
  • What is my significant other expecting from me?
  • Should we celebrate the evening with our kids or as a couple?
  • Does my partner really love me?
  • Would my partner be with me if we could do it all over again?
  • Am I really happy in this relationship?
  • I'm going to be really angry if my significant other doesn't make an effort to make the day special.
  • It's embarrassing when everybody else in the office receives flowers on Valentine's Day, and I don't. 
  • I don't enjoy Valentine's Day. There's too much pressure to make it special and I never know quite what to do. 
  • I don't like these made-up holidays. 

Words That Might Be Encouraging:

  • I am looking forward to spending time with you.
  • I love you more now than I did when I met you.
  • Without you in my life, I wouldn't be nearly as happy and my world would be very different.
  • We should make Valentine's Day a day that we celebrate our love, our way.
  • I believe in you. I believe in us.
  • Valentine's Day did not mean anything to me until I met you.
  • I wish we could spend the whole day together to celebrate our love.
  • Even though I may not always show it, I love you deeply.
  • You are the best thing that has ever happened to me.
  • I can't imagine what I would do without you in my life.
  • Let's plan to spend time with each other on Valentine's Day.
  • It's okay if you have to work all day. Let's pick another time to celebrate. 
  • I don't need a date on the calendar to remind me how much I love you.
  • What's your idea of a lovely Valentine's Day?

Words That Might Be Discouraging:

  • I hate Valentine's Day.
  • It's just another day.
  • Valentine's Day is a Hallmark holiday.
  • Valentine's Day says nothing about how I feel about you.
  • I am not sure why people get so into Valentine's Day.
  • I hate spending money on flowers; they're just going to die.
  • Valentine's Day is the worst night to go out to dinner.
  • I am not sure what all the fuss is about when it comes to Valentine's Day.
  • I wish we didn't have to deal with Valentine's Day.
  • You'd better send me flowers on Valentine's Day or we're through. 
  • Last year's Valentine's Day was a total disappointment. You'd better get me something better this year.
  • I don't really care what we do for Valentine's Day. You decide.
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