Dating Online,, Love, Falling in Love, Finding Love

In This Guide:

Meeting people online can be a brave new world for many to consider, but it can also be a fantastic way to meet people you would never normally come across. Below, discover what people considering online dating may be concerned about and what you can say to encourage them to give it a try.

They Might Be Thinking:

  • I hope I can find someone compatible online.
  • Is it more or less risky to meet someone online than in a bar?
  • What should I put in my profile?
  • How truthful should I be in my personal profile?
  • How specific should I be in terms of what I am looking for in a mate?
  • Which photos should I post of myself?
  • Should I call after the first date if I had a good time?  
  • Are the rules different than "regular" dating?
  • Should I contact people that look interesting to me, or should I just wait to see if someone contacts me?
  • What should I talk about on the first date?
  • How long should we text or email before asking for a face-to-face meeting?
  • Should we split the bill for dinner?
  • Should I have sex with the person on the first date if I really like them?

Words That Might Be Encouraging:

  • Online dating can't be any more risky than meeting someone at a bar or a club.
  • Online dating actually might increase your odds of meeting someone compatible, as opposed to more traditional methods.
  • Why don't you continue to meet people online as well as through more traditional methods?
  • What dating app are you using?
  • Try to meet some of your date's friends as soon as you can to get a better sense of what they are really like.
  • If you need someone to look over your profile, I would be happy to give you my thoughts.
  • It might be a good idea to meet someone at a public place for your first date.
  • Always know how far you plan to go before you leave the house.
  • Make sure you give a good impression on your personal profile.

Words That Might Be Discouraging:

  • I just couldn't be out there again.
  • What will you tell your friends and family about how you met each other?
  • I don't know much about this stuff. It all seems so foreign.
  • Do people actually get married after meeting someone online?
  • I guess meeting online is not much better than meeting in a bar.
  • How do you know if people are telling the truth about themselves online?
  • It seems like a meat market online. Everything seems so superficial.
  • I hate men; they are such pigs.
  • You should just stay single and have fun.
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