Dating Outside Your Race
Interracial, Multi-Racial, Mixed Race, Cross-Cultural
They Might Be Thinking:
- Will my friends and family be supportive?
- Does he or she like me just because I am different?
- What will I do if the relationship gets serious?
- I am not sure if I like this person enough to deal with some of the challenges I may face.
- What will his or her parents think about me?
- Will people think or look at me differently?
- Will people gossip about me?
- Should we hold hands or show affection in public?
- Should I post pictures of the two of us on social media?
- What do I do if I start to fall in love with this person?
Words That Might Be Encouraging:
- You should love who you love - John Mayer.
- Race is not a good reason to date or not date someone. Dating should be based on who you love and who you respect.
- We are all a member of the same race. The human race.
- More than three million people in the U.S. are married to someone of a different race.
- Does he or she make you a better person? If yes, you should focus on that and not worry about what others think.
- If you love this person, race will be the least of your challenges.
- People may look at you a little differently, but I say "good." Look at how great you are together!
Words That Might Be Discouraging:
- Can't you find someone to date from your own race?
- Are you trying to break your parents' hearts?
- Good for you, but I could never do that to my parents.
- Marriage and relationships are hard enough already under the best of circumstances. Why make it harder on yourselves?
- What about your children? They would suffer not knowing which race they belong to.
- How will you decide what to name the kids if you get married?
- What church will you go to?
- I think you are too pretty to settle for someone like (Him or Her).
- I think you can do better.
- I don't think they will ever really understand what our people go through.
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