Dating as Adults

Courting, Love, Relationship

In This Guide:

Dating as a grown up can feel a whole lot different than dating when you were in high school or college. Meeting people is more challenging and expectations may differ, which makes navigating through those first few dates a bit tricky. Here is what adult daters may be thinking as they dive into the scoial scene, and what you might say to offer your support.

They Might Be Thinking:

  • Am I ready to start dating again?
  • Am I over my last breakup?
  • Do I have time for a serious relationship?
  • Should I do a makeover before I start dating again?
  • Should I go online to or another dating site?
  • Is Facebook a good place to find someone?
  • What should I be looking for in someone right now?
  • How much of myself should I reveal to this person?
  • How far should I let this relationship progress?
  • Am I just having fun, or am I looking for Mr. or Ms. Right?
  • How many days should I wait before I call someone for a first date?
  • Is okay to call a guy if I am interested in him?
  • What should I talk about on the first date?
  • Should I go to a club to meet someone?
  • When should I tell people that I am dating someone?
  • When should I tell this person that I love them?
  • Should I date just one person at a time or go out with lots of people?
  • Should I date someone from work?
  • Should we have sex while dating?

Words That Might Be Encouraging:

  • I'm really glad to hear that you are setting your own boundaries for what is important to you in your dating life.
  • What do you like about this person?
  • If you just focus on being you, you will find someone great.
  • Does this person feel like a long-term prospect?
  • How long have you been interested in this person?
  • What do you talk about?
  • Do you feel respected and valued?
  • Do you think this person will make you a better person?
  • Do you think this person is a "keeper?"
  • What is the thing you like most about this person?

Words That Might Be Discouraging:

  • I think it's too early for you to start dating again.
  • Don't sleep with someone on the first date!
  • Is he or she really cute?
  • Is he or she a good kisser?
  • Do you think your parents will like this person?
  • I don't know how people date these days without being scared out of their minds.
  • Is he or she the same religious faith as you?
  • What ethnicity is he or she?
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