Divorce Proof Your Marriage

Love, Romance, Married, Compromise, Collaboration, Dating, Engaged, Wedding, Children

In This Guide:

Every couple starts out in marriage intending to be together forever. But reality quickly sets in, everyday stresses mount up and tending to your relationship can get shoved on the back burner. The truth is, marriage needs love and care to thrive. Here are some ideas of things to say and not to say to keep your union healthy and strong. 

They Might Be Thinking:

  • Does my spouse still love me as much as when we got married?
  • Is my spouse still attracted to me?
  • How do I keep things interesting in our marriage?
  • How often should we make love?
  • How often should we try to do date night?
  • What are good conversations to have every week?
  • What can we improve in our relationship to keep things fresh and interesting?
  • I feel like we are stuck in a rut sometimes. How do we avoid the lows?
  • How should we handle contact with the opposite sex?
  • How much money is my spouse spending? Should we have one bank account or two?

Words That Might Be Encouraging:

  • I love you more now than I did when we got married.
  • The more we communicate, the better our relationship will be.
  • I respect your independence and free will to be the best person you can be.
  • I am still learning new things about you every day.
  • Let's focus on what is best for us as a team, even if that means one person has to sacrifice a little more than the other. Sometimes that's you; sometimes that's me.
  • We have built a foundation that we could never recreate with someone else if we stay committed to our vision.
  • I still look forward to talking to you before I go to sleep every night.
  • I've got your back.
  • Together...we can do anything.
  • Let's treat each other as we would treat the people we most respect in the world.
  • We should treat each other as if we only have 30 days to live. We would always treat each other well and keep it fresh.

Words That Might Be Discouraging:

  • I wonder who came up with the concept of marriage?  
  • Asking two people to grow together is almost impossible.
  • I think [insert non-spouse name here] is really attractive.
  • You don't seem as committed to loving me as you were when we were dating.
  • You never touch me anymore unless you want to have sex.
  • I am not sure if you really get me?
  • You seem to come alive when you see friends and family. I never get that kind of reaction anymore.
  • Do you think everyone gets to this point in a relationship?
  • I don't know if we can figure this situation out?
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