First Time Falling in Love

Relationships, Romance, Dating, Intimacy
Curated By
Nayely Gonzalez

Nayely Gonzalez is a doctoral student at Indiana University Bloomington studying Counseling Psychology. Nayely graduated with her Bachelor's degree from Ripon College in 2016, double majoring in Psychology and English. Her research interests include human sexuality, Latinx mental health, sexual assault prevention strategies among college students, and clinical practice with LGBTQ populations.

They Might Be Thinking:

  • This is the HAPPIEST I have ever been!
  • I am going to spend the rest of my life with this person.
  • Am I good enough for my partner?
  • I cannot stop thinking about this person. 
  • I wonder what our children will look like. 
  • I cannot wait to introduce my partner to all my friends and family. 
  • I am AFRAID of losing this person. 
  • I am EXHAUSTED. 
  • Being in love is STRESSFUL. 
  • I am ANXIOUS about the unknown and our future. 
  • What if my friends and family don’t like my partner?
  • I want to be with this person all the time. 

Words That Might Be Encouraging:

  • I am so happy/excited for you! Congratulations! 
  • I can tell you are happy just by looking at you. 
  • Tell me about your partner.
  • You look so happy together. I am glad you found each other.
  • Tell me about what this has been like for you. 
  • Enjoy the high.
  • You never forget your first love. 
  • How did you two meet?
  • Let me know how I can help and support you. 
  • I am glad you met someone who brings out the best in you. 
  • It’s okay to feel stressed/anxious. Falling in love can bring a whirlwind of emotions. 
  • Thank you for sharing your experiences and emotions with me. I know it’s not always easy. I appreciate your vulnerability and willingness to be open. 
  • I am always here to listen to you and talk about whatever you’d like.

Words That Might Be Discouraging:

  • This isn’t going to last. 
  • You’re too young to know what love is. 
  • I felt the same way about [insert name] and then he/she/they cheated on me. 
  • It’s great you believe in love, even after your parents’ divorce. 
  • [Words about how difficult it is for you to find a partner.]
  • Have you two had sex yet?
  • Your relationship is moving too fast. 
  • Have you talked about marriage yet?
  • Is it serious?
  • Do you think this person is "the one?"
  • Does your partner have any hot friends?
  • This person doesn't seem like your type. 
  • Ugh! Now I’ll never see you!
  • Have you checked out the ex? Is the ex attractive? 
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