Going Natural with Curly Hair

Dealing with Curly Hair, Relaxer, Perm, Hair Color, Diffuser
Curated By
Celeste Edwards

Celeste Edwards currently works as the Director of Marketing and Programming at The Downtown Club in Houston, TX. Celeste maintains an active training routine that requires a balance between style and function. She made the transition to natural hairstyles over five years ago to help reclaim hours of free time and control of her schedule. Celeste is a graduate of McNeese State University.

They Might Be Thinking:

  • Will my new hairstyle be socially acceptable at work?
  • Will I look less feminine if I cut my hair shorter? 
  • Will I still receive the same level of respect and professionalism? 
  • Do I have the right face for a natural hairstyle? 
  • Will my non-black colleagues ask a lot of questions about the change?
  • Will I know how to comb my hair after years of having my hair relaxed/permed?
  • Will I be considered too black for my non-black colleagues and friends?
  • Will I still be considered attractive to the people I care about?
  • How many different ways will I be able to style my hair? 
  • What is my curl pattern? 
  • I hope my boyfriend or husband likes the new look.

Words That Might Be Encouraging:

  • Your hair looks pretty that way.
  • It must be great to be able to wear your hair so many different ways.
  • We don’t go natural, we return. Natural is where it began.
  • Your hair looks really healthy.
  • I know it is a change, be patient. It will be worth it.
  • You are beautiful however you wear your hair. 
  • Enjoy the journey. You are empowering yourself.
  • What products do you use to wash/style your hair?
  • I like your curl pattern. 
  • It take a lot of courage to do what is best for you.
  • People should worry about their own appearance.
  • You blessed with beautiful hair.
  • Your twists and twist outs that are smooth, soft and shiny.
  • Your new style shows more of your beautiful face.
  • Less time on hair will save you hundreds of hours. You can use that time for other activities you enjoy.

Words That Might Be Discouraging:

  • Can I touch it?
  • Do you wash it?
  • Is that a wig?
  • Will it be hard to get a job with your hair like that?
  • Why are you so sensitive about your hair?
  • Your hair looks wild and crazy. 
  • I like this new thing you’re doing with your hair.
  • It’s so trendy.
  • Your hair looks so different every time I see you. 
  • Your hair is pretty for a black girl. 
  • Can you get a comb through that bush? 
  • How many things can you hide in there?
  • You look sexier with straight hair.
  • It’s so soft like cotton.
  • How did you get your hair to do THAT?
  • So, your hair shrinks when wet? Where does it go?
  • Your hair is too big.
  • Your braids reflect your African roots.
  • You look incredible wild and sensual.
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