Irreconcilable Differences

No Fault, Arguing, Conflict

They Might Be Thinking:

  • We can't agree on how we deal with family issues.
  • We can't agree on how to balance home and work.
  • We never seem to be able to communicate effectively. 
  • We have difficulty setting expectations for our sex life.
  • I just can't deal with all of my partner's unique personal habits and issues.
  • He expects me to be his mother when it comes to taking care of the house and kids.
  • Her friends know too much about the personal details of our relationship.
  • We have very different political views.  
  • I just can't deal with the misogynistic comments.
  • I can't continue to live in debt. I need to get my financial house in order.
  • My partner will not stop drinking to save the relationship.
  • My partner will not stop playing video games to spend more time with me or the kids.
  • We can't seem to agree on how to raise our children.
  • My partner wants to come and go as he/she pleases, and does not respect me as a person.

Words That Might Be Encouraging:

  • You should feel good about the fact that you have exhausted all the possibilities.
  • If you have given it your best shot, what more can someone ask of you?
  • I think you have given this lots of consideration and effort.  
  • It sounds like you are at peace with your decision.
  • Sometimes people change in ways that could not have been foreseen.  
  • Better to be happy apart, than together and miserable.
  • Sometimes people just grow apart from one another.
  • Sometimes the best thing to do is to just move on.
  • Sometimes saying no is more difficult than saying yes.

Words That Might Be Discouraging:

  • Once a jerk, always a jerk.
  • I think your parnter has always been in this relationship for the money.
  • You should keep trying to work things out.
  • What are you going to tell the children?
  • I never really thought you guys were that good together.
  • When are you going to start dating again?
  • Are you going to sell the house soon?
  • What are you going to do for housing?
  • When are you moving out?
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