My Son

Self Confidence, Love, Safety, Intimacy, Knowledge

They Might Be Thinking:

  • What does it mean to be a man?
  • Is there really a God?
  • What should I be looking for in a partner for life?
  • What should I be looking for in someone to marry?
  • What are my views on politics?
  • I am scared to make my own decisions.
  • When should I get married?
  • What qualities should I be looking for in a spouse?
  • What does it mean to fall in love with someone?
  • Should I go to college?  
  • How much money do I need to live the way I live now?
  • What will happen when I am on my own?

Words That Might Be Encouraging:

  • Focus on how your son achieved whatever he accomplished, vs. how closely his interests are aligned with your interests. 
  • Always do your best...and you will never have regrets.
  • As long as you do your best, we will always be supportive of your decisions.
  • It's your life; we are just here to guide you along the way.
  • I am proud to be your parent, even on the days when you come up a bit short on achieving all of your goals.
  • I think your preparation went a long way to put you in position to win.
  • Always consider both sides of an issue before you make your decision.
  • Be willing to find the best way, instead focusing on getting your own way.
  • Listening is the first step to being understood by others when it's your time to speak.
  • If you want to get what you want, it usually helps if you try to help others get what they want.
  • You attract more bees with honey than vinegar.
  • Do unto others as you would like to be treated yourself.
  • Half of what you do is how smart you are; the other half is how you do it. You need both in equal measure to succeed in life.
  • Be specific with your praise beyond "great job." (I.e., I think you did a great job...listening to everyone's thoughts before making a decision.)
  • I am a big fan of how hard you work when you realize you are facing an important task that will require a bigger investment of your time and energy.

Words That Might Be Discouraging:

  • I will never forgive you for what you did today.
  • You should set a good example for your brother or sister.
  • I'm ashamed of you.
  • Don't worry; everything will be okay.
  • Here, I'll do it.
  • You should not be talking about sex.
  • You have to eat everything on your plate.
  • "Because I said so.
  • "If you don't clean your room, you'll lose privileges.
  • "This is terrible... the worst possible outcome.
  • "Come here, NOW!
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