Safe Sex

STDs, Contraceptives, Abstinence

They Might Be Thinking:

  • What are the risks of having unprotected sex with my partner?
  • How far am I willing to go? What are my boundaries?
  • Which sexual activities am I willing to try? Which am I unwilling to do? 
  • Which sexual activities might I be willing to try in some situations?
  • Which STI is the most prevalent? How do I protect myself? 
  • I don't like using condoms. It doesn't feel the same.
  • What are the odds that I might get a sexually transmitted infection if I have unprotected sex?
  • What are the risks of getting AIDS in a heterosexual relationship?
  • How did Magic Johnson get rid of AIDS?
  • What barriers and other precautions do I want my partner(s) to use when being sexual with others?
  • Do I want to be in a sexually non-monogamous relationship?
  • Can people live with AIDS now if they get the right medications?
  • Does the pill protect you from sexually transmitted infections?
  • Am I willing to risk getting pregnant/getting my girlfriend pregnant? If not, which method of birth control should I use?

Words That Might Be Encouraging:

  • Abstinence may not be the coolest solution, but it is certainly the safest in terms of STIs and pregnancy.
  • Is unprotected sex worth the risk of getting an STI or getting pregnant?
  • It might be a good idea for both people to get tested for STIs before engaging in sexual activity.
  • Anything worth having, should be worth the wait.
  • You deserve the best; don't let anyone force you to do something that makes you uncomfortable.
  • I think you know that I would prefer that you abstain from sex until you are older, but if you don't, be sure to protect yourself from STIs with a condom and use appropriate birth control.
  • Waiting until you are married could be the biggest gift you ever give to your future spouse.

Words That Might Be Discouraging:

  • You should just wait until you are married.
  • What is the rush to have sex?
  • Sex is overrated.
  • You could die if you have unprotected sex.
  • Sex today is dangerous. 
  • I forbid you to have sex until you are married.
  • I refuse to talk to you about sex because I don't think you should be having it. 
  • Unprotected sex is a baby waiting to happen.
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