Child Custody, Couple's Counseling, Denial, Guilt, Depression, Reflection, Loneliness

They Might Be Thinking:

  • What will people think of me?
  • Will my family choose sides?
  • Is this the right decision?
  • This is all my fault. If I tried harder, we could have made it work. 
  • I can't stand my spouse, I can't believe it took this long to realize that we would never work. 
  • Am I truly better off?
  • I'm too old to start dating again, I'm going to be single forever.
  • I don't know if I'll find anyone better. 
  • What are we going to do with all of our things?
  • I can't believe I wasted all of that time with the wrong person. Now I have nothing to show for it. 
  • How will this affect our children?

Words That Might Be Encouraging:

  • I'm here for you regardless of the outcome. 
  • I'm here for you if you need to vent. 
  • Let me know if you need a hand with anything while you're working through things. I'm here to support you. 
  • How are you feeling?
  • I know this is tough, but I admire you for doing what you feel is best.
  • I believe this is a perfect opportunity to be the best version of you. 
  • You are a smart, funny, and kind person. I know things will work out the way they are supposed to. 
  • Are there circles that you haven't told? I want to make sure I respect your privacy. 
  • You're strong, I know you'll get through this. 

Words That Might Be Discouraging:

  • What are you thinking?
  • Your spouse is a good person. Are you sure you've tried hard enough?
  • Why would you throw away so many years of your life?
  • Are you ready to start dating again?
  • Aren't you going to be lonely?
  • You're so selfish. Your separation will force your family and friends to choose sides.
  • This is definitely going to lead to a divorce. If that happens, have you thought about the kids and your assets? 
  • Why are you putting yourself through all of this drama? 
  • You need to try to work this out.
  • Don't tell anyone until you are sure. 
  • I hated your spouse anyway.
  • It's about time! Let's face it. You two were horrible together. 
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