Separated

Child Custody, Couple's Counseling, Denial, Guilt, Depression, Reflection, Loneliness

What will people think of me?
Will my family choose sides?
Is this the right decision?
This is all my fault. If I tried harder, we could have made it work.
I can't stand my spouse, I can't believe it took this long to realize that we would never work.
Am I truly better off?
I'm too old to start dating again, I'm going to be single forever.
I don't know if I'll find anyone better.
What are we going to do with all of our things?
I can't believe I wasted all of that time with the wrong person. Now I have nothing to show for it.
How will this affect our children?

I'm here for you regardless of the outcome.
I'm here for you if you need to vent.
Let me know if you need a hand with anything while you're working through things. I'm here to support you.
How are you feeling?
I know this is tough, but I admire you for doing what you feel is best.
I believe this is a perfect opportunity to be the best version of you.
You are a smart, funny, and kind person. I know things will work out the way they are supposed to.
Are there circles that you haven't told? I want to make sure I respect your privacy.
You're strong, I know you'll get through this.

What are you thinking?
Your spouse is a good person. Are you sure you've tried hard enough?
Why would you throw away so many years of your life?
Are you ready to start dating again?
Aren't you going to be lonely?
You're so selfish. Your separation will force your family and friends to choose sides.
This is definitely going to lead to a divorce. If that happens, have you thought about the kids and your assets?
Why are you putting yourself through all of this drama?
You need to try to work this out.
Don't tell anyone until you are sure.
I hated your spouse anyway.
It's about time! Let's face it. You two were horrible together.

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