Terrible Twos

Toddlers, Parenting, Disciplining Children, Bad Behavior

Two-Year-Olds Might Be Thinking:

  • I am frustrated, because I cannot express what I really want.
  • I do not know to express my feelings verbally, so maybe I should bite someone to show them I am not happy.
  • I feel like crying, because I am not getting what I want.
  • I am hungry, but I don't know how to tell them what I want to eat.
  • I'm so sleepy, but I don't know how to settle.
  • I want to do what everyone else is doing, but I can't because I am not tall enough to join the conversation.
  • I want to eat what everyone else is eating, but no one will let me.
  • I want to drink what everyone is drinking, but they keep moving the cup.
  • I wonder what will happen if I throw this ball across the room?
  • People are laughing when I throw things. Maybe I should keep doing it.

Words That Might Be Encouraging for Parents:

  • Every child is unique. Just keep trying until you find the right approach for you.
  • Just make sure they stay safe during the terrible twos period. They all grow out of it eventually.
  • Try to keep your child's nap time schedule consistent to keep moods calm.
  • This is just a phase. Stay calm. This too shall pass.
  • Feed your kiddos when they are hungry... they will let you know.
  • Don't give in to a screaming child. Keeping your cool is the best approach. 
  • Come up with new fun games to play when behavior becomes disruptive. Distract.
  • Be consistent and calm when your toddler begins to act up.
  • Tell your toddlers "no," and provide an explanation as to why they cannot participate in inappropriate activities.

Words That Might Be Discouraging for Parents:

  • You are not doing it right.
  • This is how I did it, and it worked great.
  • I am not sure what you are doing wrong, but your kid cries a lot.
  • Can't you get that kid to shut up?
  • Does your kid always act this way?
  • You just have to figure it out.
  • You were the same way when you were growing up.
  • You have to get the kid on a set schedule.
  • If your kids are not doing what you ask, you should spank them.
  • They say all kids go through the terrible twos, but mine never did. Just lucky, I guess. 
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