The Breakup

Dating, Love, Relationship, Divorce, Relationship Issues, Cheating

In This Guide:

Breakups hurt. A lot. They mark the death of something you created and nurtured and loved and spent an inordinate amount of energy on. And whether you're the breakup-er or the breakup-ee, the loss can be traumatic and awfully painful. In this guide, read about what someone experiencing a breakup could be feeling, and what you might say to see them through this trying time.

They Might Be Thinking:

Did this person cheat on me while we were dating?
Why did this person break up with me? Did I do something wrong?
I thought this person was the one. I really hate the dating process.
How long will it take for me to find someone that I really connect with mentally and physically?
Will his/her friends still talk to me when I see them out in public?
What will I tell my parents? They thought I'd found the one.
Will we still be friends, or will we never be close again?
I feel like I lost my best friend.
I can't stop thinking about the great times we spent together.
How will I get through the holidays without him/her?
Is my partner losing interest in me?
Is my partner looking at other potential partners?
We never spend time together anymore.
I can't do this anymore.

Words That Might Be Encouraging:

If you felt good about what you gave to the relationship, you should not have any regrets.
It's okay to feel sad about the breakup. You put a lot of energy into the relationship.
You're just another step closer to understanding more about what you really need to be happy.
The good news is that you had the courage to end the relationship before it got any more serious.
We are here to support you. We believe in you no matter what.
Sometimes it's better just to move on.
I think down the road, you will be much better off.
I think you have so much to offer someone who really appreciates your value.
I know this is hard to process right now. I am here to support you whenever you need to talk.
Take time to get to know yourself again.