The Breakup

Dating, Love, Relationship, Divorce, Relationship Issues, Cheating

In This Guide:

Breakups hurt. A lot. They mark the death of something you created and nurtured and loved and spent an inordinate amount of energy on. And whether you're the breakup-er or the breakup-ee, the loss can be traumatic and awfully painful. In this guide, read about what someone experiencing a breakup could be feeling, and what you might say to see them through this trying time.

They Might Be Thinking:

  • Did this person cheat on me while we were dating?
  • Why did this person break up with me? Did I do something wrong?
  • I thought this person was the one. I really hate the dating process.
  • How long will it take for me to find someone that I really connect with mentally and physically?
  • Will his/her friends still talk to me when I see them out in public?
  • What will I tell my parents? They thought I'd found the one.
  • Will we still be friends, or will we never be close again?
  • I feel like I lost my best friend.
  • I can't stop thinking about the great times we spent together.
  • How will I get through the holidays without him/her?
  • Is my partner losing interest in me?
  • Is my partner looking at other potential partners?
  • We never spend time together anymore.
  • I can't do this anymore.

Words That Might Be Encouraging:

  • If you felt good about what you gave to the relationship, you should not have any regrets.
  • It's okay to feel sad about the breakup. You put a lot of energy into the relationship.
  • You're just another step closer to understanding more about what you really need to be happy.
  • The good news is that you had the courage to end the relationship before it got any more serious.
  • We are here to support you. We believe in you no matter what.
  • Sometimes it's better just to move on.
  • I think down the road, you will be much better off.
  • I think you have so much to offer someone who really appreciates your value.
  • I know this is hard to process right now. I am here to support you whenever you need to talk.
  • Take time to get to know yourself again.

Words That Might Be Discouraging:

  • There are plenty of fish in the sea.
  • I did not like the way s/he treated you.
  • You are so much better off without this person in your life.
  • I think you need to spend some time alone for a while.
  • I think this person is incapable of appreciating your value.
  • Guys are such jerks. I feel so lucky to have found one of the good ones.
  • She is such a gold digger. She was only with you because of your money.
  • I think you were too good for him.
  • I wasn't gonna say anything before, but I never liked him/her.
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