Victim of Stalking

Having a Stalker, Creepy Followers, Fear, Anxiety, Stress, Avoidance, Uncomfortable, Contacting the Police

They Might Be Thinking:

  • How can I get rid of this person? Will my life ever go back to normal?
  • I am so tired and stressed out. have no idea what to do next.
  • This person is ruining my life.
  • I am constantly scared that this person will find me and do something to me. 
  • What have I done to deserve this?
  • No one can stop this person. I’ve tried literally everything.
  • I have to plan my life around trying to be safe. This is exhausting. 
  • I wish that someone could make this person just go away. 
  • I don’t feel like myself. The constant stress is wearing me down. 
  • No one can understand what this is like. 
  • Why me?

Words That Might Be Encouraging:

  • This is entirely unfair. I am sorry this is happening to you.
  • You are very strong and perseverant (provide examples of times they have persevered). I believe you can make it through this. 
  • This is not your fault in any way. 
  • I don’t think I could ever fully understand what you are going through. However, I am here for you and will do my best to understand. 
  • Your situation sounds incredibly difficult and frightening. 
  • I feel like it’d be so hard to feel safe. If it were me, I’d feel so tired from being on edge all of the time. 
  • I know it can be hard to ask for help, but I am here to support you in whatever way I can. 
  • You’ve done nothing wrong. I can’t imagine the stress and anxiety you must be dealing with.
  • Given the circumstances, I am impressed that you have done X, Y, and Z. You are so capable, even in the worst of situations. 
  • I imagine this has brought out a lot of negative feelings. Please know that you can share these feelings whenever you’d like with me…I won’t judge you for them. 

Words That Might Be Discouraging:

  • Maybe we shouldn’t hang out anymore…
  • Is this person watching us right now?
  • What are you going to do? What if this stalker tries to kill you?
  • You should go to the police. They’ll protect you. 
  • Why do you think this stalker is following you? What did you do to this person?
  • Maybe you should move somewhere else.
  • This person must be such a freak! (Continues insulting and trying to analyze the stalker.)
  • Well, are you going to do anything about it? 
  • You should set up cameras, hire a body guard, get a gun. (Continues to offer more suggestions.) 
  • There are so many weirdos out there. None of us is safe. 
  • You should be doing more. You can’t just sit around and let this person destroy your life.
  • You should be flattered that someone is so interested in you. 
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