We are Engaged

The Proposal, Getting Engaged, Fiance, Planning a Wedding

In This Guide:

Getting engaged is an exciting and significant step in choosing the life you want for yourself. Some couples want to shout it from the rooftops! But amidst all the joy, emotions run high, a host of concerns crop up and the tasks on your "to do" list seem neverending. Here are some thoughts that may be running through a newly-promised couple's heads, and some words that may offer encouragement and peace of mind. 

They Might Be Thinking:

  • I am so excited about the next phase of my life.
  • Should I have a big or small wedding?
  • What type of wedding bands should we get?
  • I am so excited about the next phase of my life.
  • What kind of wedding do I want?
  • Who should I ask to be my maid of honor/best man?
  • How much should I spend on my wedding dress/suit?
  • Will our parents be willing to pay for the wedding?
  • What time of year should we set our wedding date?
  • What type of flowers should we have for my bouquet?
  • Where should we go for our honeymoon?
  • Should we move in together, now that we are engaged?
  • How many people can we invite to our wedding?
  • Will I hyphenate my name or change it completely?
  • Should we continue to be celibate during our engagement?
  • How will my relationship be with my new spouse's siblings?
  • What is the best way to introduce our parents to one another?

Words That Might Be Encouraging:

  • I am so excited about your wedding but, more importantly, I am excited about your life together.
  • I wish you love, understanding, and respect.
  • Tell me about the amazing person you've chosen to spend your life with.
  • What an exciting time! I'm sure things feel hectic right now, so don't forget to take some time to enjoy just being engaged. Even if it's just a dinner out to celebrate!
  • Wedding planning can be overwhelming, but if you remind yourself that the marriage is more important than the wedding, that will help you keep things in perspective.
  • Focus on strengthening family relationships as you are going through the wedding planning process.
  • Your ring is very elegant and fits your hand so well.
  • Tell me about the proposal!
  • You and you partner make such a beautiful couple. I have no doubt the wedding will be very special.
  • This couldn't have happened to a more special couple. 

Words That Might Be Discouraging:

  • Finally! It's about time.
  • Your ring is really pretty even if it's small.
  • Your names sound great together.
  • How long did you date before you were engaged?
  • Are you ready to get married?
  • I thought you decided you were not interested in getting married.
  • I would like my kid to be in the wedding.
  • So... when are you having kids?
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