Mean Girls

Self-Esteem, Insecurity, Puberty, Growing Pains, Gossip, Bullying, Cliques

Mean Girls Might Say:

  • I don’t like you, because you are fat.
  • I was never really your friend.
  • I think you are stupid.
  • You don’t know how to do anything cool.
  • You are not cool enough to hang out with us.
  • No one in our entire class likes you.
  • We never liked you. We just felt sorry for you.
  • You are ugly. 
  • You are black. Don't touch me.
  • You have a funny looking nose.
  • You have big [insert body part/s].
  • You talk funny.
  • You have small [insert body part/s].
  • You're the weirdest person in the whole school.
  • You are such a slut.
  • You have to do exactly what we say or you're kicked out of our group.

The Bullying Victim Might Be Thinking:

  • Everyone hates me.
  • I am not as cool as the other girls.
  • Everyone is picking on me.
  • I feel helpless, hopeless, and out of options.
  • I don't feel safe.
  • If I fight back, I might get in trouble for defending myself.
  • I hate getting teased about stuff that I can't control.
  • I feel sad, anxious and unable to focus on my work.
  • If I looked like everyone else (features or race), people might treat me differently.
  • I am afraid of being physically attacked.
  • I am afraid that my clothes, books, electronics, or jewelry will be taken.
  • I feel sick all of the time.
  • No one wants to sit next to me.
  • I have lost my appetite.
  • I have no friends.
  • I am having difficulty sleeping and, when I do sleep, I have frequent nightmares.
  • I don't want to go to school.
  • My confidence is low.
  • I feel like running away.
  • I feel like hurting myself or committing suicide.
  • Why me?

Words That Might Be Encouraging:

  • I'm here to support you.
  • I think you're amazing.
  • If you feel uncomfortable with somebody's comments or actions, tell someone!
  • How can we deal with this together?
  • Keep a journal of your experiences.
  • It is better to let a trusted adult know that you are being bullied, than to let the problem continue.
  • Everyone deserves to be treated with respect.
  • You don't deserve that treatment.
  • I am happy to talk to whomever I need to speak with to make this bullying go away.
  • Tell the security team. They must respond to your report. 
  • Talk to someone you trust.
  • It's not worth it to be popular if it means you have to be unkind.
  • FAITH BASED: What would God want you to do in this situation?

Words That Might Be Discouraging:

  • You should just stand up to them and fight back.
  • Tattling will only make it worse.
  • Just ignore the mean girls that are bullying you. They will eventually stop.
  • It's all just a part of growing up.
  • Yeah, the pretty girls are always mean.
  • Just avoid them.
  • There is nothing you can do about it, except fight fire with fire.
  • You’re weak, and you’re too scared to step up and deal with this mess on your own.
  • They only bully you because they're jealous.
  • Let's think of a way you can get them back for what they did to you.
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