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Things Cyber Bullies Might Say to Their Victims:

  • I don’t like you, because you are fat.
  • I was never really your friend.
  • I think you are stupid.
  • You don’t know how to do anything cool.
  • You are not cool enough to hang out with us.
  • No one in this entire class likes you.
  • You are such a slut.
  • We never even liked you.
  • You are ugly. 
  • You have a funny looking nose.
  • You have a big [insert body part(s)].
  • You talk funny.
  • You have small [insert body part(s)].
  • Your the weirdest person in the whole school.
  • You have to do exactly what we say, or you're kicked out of our group.

Victims Might Be Thinking:

  • Everyone hates me.
  • I am not as cool as the other kids.
  • Everyone is picking on me.
  • I feel helpless, hopeless and out of options.
  • I don't feel safe.
  • If I fight back, I might get in trouble for defending myself.
  • I hate getting teased about stuff that I can't control.
  • I feel sad, anxious and unable to focus on my school work.
  • If I looked like everyone else (features or race), people might treat me differently.
  • I am afraid of being physically attacked.
  • I am afraid that clothing, books, electronics, or jewelry will be taken from me.
  • I feel sick all of the time 
  • I don't have much of an appetite any more. 
  • I am having difficulty sleeping and, when I do fall asleep, I have frequent nightmares.
  • I don't feel like doing my homework, so my grades are declining.
  • I don't want to go to school.
  • My self esteem is low.
  • I feel like running away from home.
  • I feel like hurting myself or comitting suicide.

Words That Might Be Encouraging:

  • I'm here to support you.
  • I think you're amazing.
  • If you feel uncomfortable with a person's comments or actions, tell someone! 
  • How can we deal with this together?
  • Keep a journal of your experiences.
  • It is better to let a trusted adult know you are being bullied, than to let the problem continue.
  • Everyone deserves and to be treated with respect.
  • You don't deserve that treatment.
  • I am happy to talk to whomever I need to speak with to make this go away.
  • Tell the security team. They must respond to your report. I will go to school to make sure they take action.
  • Talk to someone you trust.

Words That Might Be Discouraging:

  • You should fight back.
  • Don’t be so sensitive.
  • Tattling will only make things worse.
  • Just ignore the kids that are bullying you; they will eventually stop.
  • This is all just part of growing up.  
  • Just avoid those bullies.
  • There is nothing you can do, but fight fire with fire.
  • You’re weak, and you’re too scared to step up and deal with this mess on your own.
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